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Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Yamaha JMC's Book 2 Mini Concert

Ian and Pravin singing "Let's Go"

Ian's JMC Book 2 has finally come to an end. The class had a mini concert held last Saturday. Ian chose to play “Sweet Dance” and sang “Let's Go”. Only 6 out of 10 children were present, as four sang “The Sky Games” and that left only Ian and Pravin to sing “Let's Go”. Hahaha... He did a lot of practice on the song at home but when it's time to sing in front of his classmates and parents, both he and Pravin had butterflies in their stomach, they forgot where to start the song and were totally blank when it came to 2nd verse and kept repeating the 1st verse. Very funny indeed!

I bought JMC Book 3 (Text Book, Work Book and DVD) from Yamaha bookstore and it looks like they will have to learn a lot of chords by hearing which Ian is very weak at. I know a lot of effort are needed to improve his hearing skills. The keyboard at home seems to be producing similar sound (Well, to the untrained ears of mine) when different chords are played. I am still wondering if I should invest in a piano or to wait until he finishes his JMC. Ian told me he would like to learn guitar or violin after JMC but has not shown much interest in piano though.

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I accompanied mom to the Oncology Unit this morning for her 5th cycle of chemotherapy. The uncle I met and chatted with two weeks ago was there too to take his 8th cycle. He has been having problems with low platelet counts since his 3rd cycle and now that the doctor has decided to reduce his dosage from 3 to 2 bottles, same chemo regimen as mom's though mom's FBC (Full Blood Count) is still okay to take the full dose. I hope mom would be able to sail through and complete the whole cycle without any major problems.

It was a long wait before mom was called to the day care room due to staff shortage and quite a few of the staff were still on their Raya holidays. We arrived at 8.15am and mom got her turn only at 9.45am. As the whole session would last for 4 hours, I brought along my notebook and updated on my blog to keep busy.

I needed a hair cut desperately and had not got around doing it. I know I must make effort to prioritize and change my lifestyle and focus on being mom's caregiver and not going on wasting my time justifying and pondering on the issue of fairness or otherwise. Everytime when I feel down, hubby would say something like this: Just take the task with a noble mind without thinking about getting any returns. Fei Lou, easier said than done, I am trying very hard and have had struggles within myself for god knows, umpteen times.

The uncle that I met this morning praised me for being such a filial and good daughter as I keep mom company wherever mom goes in the hospital as I have to be there to be her interpreter, she speaks no other languages or dialects, only Cantonese. Only God knows if I am even qualified to be “shortlisted” as a filial daughter. I know by transferring mom back to Sabah, I would get all the freedom that I have been wanting and without having to worry about cooking, dealing with mom's fluctuating emotions, her side effects from chemo, keeping track on mom's doctor appointments, going out and working on my assignments without feeling any guilt that someone ill is left behind unattended.

But on the other hand, I would not trust the doctors here in KL, let alone those in Sandakan! Would I blame myself or get blamed for the rest of my life should anything happened to mom due to negligence by any parties? I think I just have to learn to let go....

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Monday, September 28, 2009

I Am Depressed

I think I already have most of the signs and symptoms of depression:

  • I sleep too much, I feel fatigue and physically drained
  • I feel hopeless and helpless
  • I can't control my negative thoughts, no matter how hard I try
  • I lose weight
  • I am short tempered than before
  • I have problems focusing
  • I can be very mean at times but I can't help it
I get very depressed everytime mom complains of any side effects induced by chemotherapy drugs, no matter how mild it is. It may sound exaggerating but being a perfectionist that I am, I will blame myself for not doing enough and for the fact the I was the only one among four siblings that had wanted mom to proceed with the chemotherapy. I feel very much ALONE when things don't turn out the way they should. When I tried to share my feelings of anxiety and frustation with them hoping to get some sort of mental strength to get me moving, they thought I was just trying to shed "my" responsibility.
My siblings felt that mom would be better treating naturally with herbs and foods than having to endure the pain from the side effects induced by chemo drugs, which I strongly objected. I have always been the only outspoken one in the family but now I hate myself for objecting to them. Wouldn't it be good if I had had my mouth shut at that time and just follow the crowd? Why must I put myself in such a situation?
Life has to go on. Having wasted two weeks making my own life more miserable, I have finally decided to come out from the nutshell and these are what I found and I hope I could stick to the tips for self help.
The signs of burnout can present themselves in many ways, such as:

  • Changes in Sleep Pattern
    Sleeping too often, too little, or experiencing interrupted sleep can often signal caregiver stress or burnout.

  • Changes in Appetite Take notice of any change of appetite, such as eating more or less. This can result in weight loss and weight gain. Eating healthy can provide the much-needed energy to provide quality care.

  • Exhaustion Feeling fatigued is often one of first burnout symptoms people experience. If exhaustion prevents you from completing basic daily activities or is persistent, see your doctor.

  • Withdrawing from Friends and Family Caregivers suffering from burnout often withdraw from friends, family, and social activities. This may be due to feeling tired, experiencing guilt about being away from the patient, social anxiety or other reasons.

  • Feeling Overly Emotional Crying at the drop of a hat or feeling angry for no reason are important signs of burnout. Displaced anger can often occur during burnout.
Nipping burnout in the bud benefits both you, the caretaker, and the person you care for. You'll feel better, and thus be able to have more energy and ability to provide for the individual in need.

  • Take Care of Yourself You cannot possibly begin to care for another if you aren't taking the time to care for yourself. Keep up with your regular doctor's appointments, exercise, and a healthy diet.

  • Take Breaks Make time for yourself to relax and rejuvenate. Regularly schedule trusted friends, family, or a home health aide to relieve you of caregiving duties for a period of time each day. Many caregivers feel guilt about leaving the bedside, but it's also good for the patient. Seeing a new face and knowing the primary caregiver is getting relief can uplift morale. The patient may feel like less of a burden if the caregiving is shared.

  • Delegate Tasks to Family and Friends You will find friends and family are more than happy to help in time of need. You just need to ask. Things like cooking meals, running errands or cleaning can all be delegated to friends and family. Having someone else pitch in and help you with these tasks will leave you with time to concentrate on providing care for your loved one.

  • Educate Yourself about the Disease The more you know, the better you'll know what to expect. Ask doctors and nurses about your loved one's condition and what you as a caregiver need to know. The Internet is also a very good way to learn more about your loved one's disease. The American Cancer Society and National Cancer Institute are excellent places to start. As you research, write any questions or comments you may have for the doctor and take them to the next appointment.

  • Get organized Many caregivers also are responsible for maintaining medical records, insurance claims, and finances, not to mention medication and eating schedules. The key to success here is organization. Keep medical records neat and accessible by storing them in a large file, organized by date. Medicine schedules can be created with a spreadsheet, then printed out daily or weekly. As each dose is given, you can check it on the sheet with the time. The same can be done for eating schedules.

  • Join a Caregiver Support Group Whether it be online or through the hospital, a caregiver support group is an excellent way to meet others going through the same thing as you. It really does help to have someone who can provide you with tips or can identify with daily caregiving life. Most hospitals have a caregiver support group. Check with the hospital administration or social worker.

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Monday, September 7, 2009

Ian's Daily Supplements

These are Ian's daily supplements and he will be fed with a tablespoonful of Cod Liver Oil and
one tab of Vitamin C and Multivitamin each every morning after breakfast.

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Friday, September 4, 2009


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Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Gardenia Toast'em

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Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Happy Birthday Mama

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