He Knows His Numbers..
He came back yesterday telling me that he scored 93% in his computer test paper. He got 92% for his BM Penulisan paper but a lot of his classmates scored full mark. Today is the 2nd day of the first semester test, one more day to go but this boy of mine has already concluded that he could be in the bottom 10 of the class of 50. A mother knows his son best.. Being a careless and easily distracted boy, he tends to rush through his work and it's not surprising to see him losing marks to all kinds of careless mistakes! One side of my kiasuness tells me to impose physical punishment for every mark lost, like what some parents in his class do but another side of me feels sorry for him.
Life has been busy and hectic for both mommy and son since he was streamed to smart class this year, he comes back with piles of homework to finish almost every evening and recently his daily exercise routine has to make way for his homework and revision.
Coming back to the physical punishment for careless mistakes made, I really do not have the heart to execute it on him. You know what I told my boy instead, It's okay to be at the bottom 10 in your class as long as you know you did your best. Am I too lenient to the boy? Some told me I shouldn't be too "lenient" and that physical punishment should be used to push their potential to the limits. No? *confused*
Labels: Kids, primary education
posted by Inspired Momx1 @ 3:39 PM
9 Comments:
I also warned my April, I can accept her scoring 80% ++ if she really doesn't know the answer, but I can't accept 98% with a careless mistake. But, if she is still making careless mistake, I am also not sure what to do. I think you have done right here, as you have given him encouragement and motivation. May be we should focus on how to help them minimize the careless mistake, instead of focusing on marks only.
Ian is doing great.... my kids still in kindy...(honeymoon years). I wonder will i get excited and worried when they enters primary.
My mom always tell me to put my best foot forward, the only time I dropped from being in the best class to the 2nd best class, only slipped by a few rankings... that was torment to me already seeing all my friends in the best class.
Just tell your boy to work on his weakness, give him some motivation, don't let him settle. There's nothing wrong in being moderately kiasu.
gosh..of course dont punish him! goodness.. he is doing fine.. we cannot keep comparing with others, i was like that in the beginning of my son's std 1.. i got stressed up deeply, not only i suffered, he also suffered.. thinking back, why i was so stupid as to over worry about his academic results.. as long as he is doing fine, it is fine with me too..
I used to think physical punishment is okay but not anymore. Especially not over school grades. Having said that, my kids are still exam-free, so I really wouldn't know what I'd do when in your situation. I just hope and pray I wouldn't spank them for being last in the class or something like that, when the time comes.
As long as he had done his best and you know it then it's ok
I'll be blessed as long as my little ones still enjoy their studies(over lenient?), lol!
If my kids can beat a few students over head of thm on nxt exam, I'll be scream in glee liao! Life and time are too short to put too much pressure and unhappiness on the kids!^^
Motto: They happy, I'm happy too!
There is no right or wrong in parenting. Your boy is coping well in his studies. Like Alice wrote, they happy, I'm happy. But of course with some restriction :).
He is doing so good already,,, let him learn to enjoy his study, finding the joy in studying, forget about the careless mistake issue(we make mistakes too,don't we?)
To me,even studying needs to be enjoyed,i really don't want my sons to grow up hating what they had to do, just because they had to do,,,
all the best to your boy
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